Fearless Honesty

So week two of my blog, the topic I was given was fearless honesty.  By definition fearless is being Strong willed. Heart of gold. Beautiful inside and out. Able to push through the storms of a shattered heart, broken spirit and tattered body emerging twice as graceful and independent then before.

Whoa! Hold the phone!  I am Fearless!  I read that and thought, could there be a better compliment in life?  Look life is going to throw us curve balls, strikes and strike outs.  I challenge that it is not about how we handle it in that moment that makes or breaks us.  That is where honesty comes in to play.  Are you honest with yourself in that moment?

How do you handle the hard moments?  I have acted childishly, like a total “B” and on many occasions I turn to my favorite, crying.  I love to feel.  I feel honestly and true to myself.   I keep it real but FEEL, there is no right and wrong in feeling unless you mask it or let someone else tell you how you should feel.    

I feel every emotion as if it were the last time.  How beautiful life is to give us these contrasts which we call emotions.  This is what living is all about.  So what I am getting at is it is not so much about if in that moment we rise to the occasion or not, it is about how we re-balance, gain our strength and then march on.  Do you come out stronger and see chaos as an opportunity or do you fall further into fear in order to protect yourself? 

In our fear based society, many of us love to say “my guard is up”.  “Every time this happens I build a wall”, well that wall you built is totally uncool.  It is self-destructive and only you are losing because of it.  It doesn’t make you stronger it weakens your heart, soul and brings about illness.  I tell my children, love hurts sometimes.  A broken heart is worse than the physical pain of a broken femur while waiting for the ambulance to arrive, because physical pain goes away, but that heart remembers.  Then I tell them that Love is worth it. 

So, How did this topic play out in my coaching session?  Well it showed me that leading with my feminine side is a strength yet to be cultivated in my business & showing vulnerability is not a weakness but a true asset.